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It pays to listen to your husband.

March 31, 2015

 
Admit it.


Why do we marry someone we adore, admire, pursue and commit our everything to, then relate to him at times as if he’s a stupid kid? Just ponder for a moment how much husband-disrespect and disregard goes on around you throughout a typical day with friends, workmates, gym gals, fellow shoppers and strangers on T.V. I observe it all the time and sometimes I’m the guilty critic, chiming in with her two and a half-wit cents! 


Marriage is a team of two who most often have opposing strengths and weaknesses which is just so great until you have to live with the opposition, right?!


But back to my theme…our men know stuff we don’t. 

Men aren’t women. (I know, that’s mind-blowing.)

They see through eyes we don’t have with gut instincts we don’t possess.
 

Their perspective is sometimes so far off from yours it’s actually….CORRECT! And maybe you’re not listening because his voice at times comes across as an annoying buzzing fat fly stuck in your ear. Well, let me tell you a few things….


If I had listened to my husband:

I would not have missed my connecting flight in Germany that one time, thus would have spent the entire, glorious, sunny day touring with him and our German-speaking friend seeing the sights and enjoying the culture. Instead, dilly dallying about like a distracted girl, I arrived at the gate as the door closed and there was no mercy to be found by Greta the staunch linebacker stewardess.


I would never have earned a speeding ticket on I-80 back in the 80s. The only speeding ticket I’ve ever had, by the way. (Knock on wood BAHAHA!) I 'knew better' than to allow him to show me how to read the new-fangled speedometer in our vehicle; I'm no dummy....uh huh.


I’ll spare you other examples for now, but I also have some great examples of the many, many, many times I have in actual fact listened and heeded his wisdom.


Just yesterday he saved me a heap o’ stress and strain when he said, “don’t do that tonight, save it for when you’re fresh in the morning.” I hesitated, then obeyed, silenced my phone as was suggested and went to bed. And guess what? By morning the situation had sorted itself out, saving me numerous texts and sparing the entire universe much confusion. LOL


And…

Because I’ve listened for a very long time, I’ve never incurred frivolous debt. Real estate, the occasional vehicle, but that’s it. 


I’ve stayed safe. Our husbands see and intuit many things that we just don’t see and intuit. My ultimate trust is in God and no man is a god, but yes, I have to admit even when I don’t want to, God gave me this man. (I sure hope you have a good sense of humor if you’re reading this.) 


Protection isn’t just when he’s by my side, handgun at the ready. Safety comes when I heed his advice about where to be, where not to be, and how to operate out there in the big wide world, etc. (Girls, are you hearing this?????)


Because I heeded his voice when everything in me was screaming “NO!” I’ve traveled to numerous countries, experienced untold adventures, had the opportunity to serve all sorts of folks, and enlarged my children’s capacities because of it.


To be perfectly honest, I ask my husband for wisdom on at least a weekly basis, if not more. He literally wearies of me coming to him for his input at times, but I’ve found such value in hearing his opinion and gaining his insight; I know he is a safe source and will so often give me answers I don’t already have. And FAST. Just like that! (snapping fingers). Blows my mind, really.

So....there you go. As hard as it may be to admit it at times...it pays to listen to your man.



 

What kind of parents are we raising, folks?!

March 26, 2015

http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a31760/balancing-mother-and-wife/?

^^^I don't know what went wrong here, but I can assure you this Good Housekeeping memoir article riding the web waves this week regarding 'mother-wife balance' is full of dangerous woman propaganda! One more voice loudly proclaiming the impossibility of being a contented wife, momma, and woman simultaneously. A mindset like this isn't a blessing to anyone, and if a woman is this 'mentally, physically and emotiona...


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You are a GENIUS.

March 23, 2015
You are a Specialist. An Absolute GENIUS. In something. And so is that kid of yours!

I just got off the phone with Paul. Paul is a mattress guy. We're not talking 'mindless, on-the-clock, employee of a mattress store,’ now. We are talking about a well studied, passionate mattress maniac! He knows more about the sleep habits of 10,000's of people worldwide than I thought I cared about, but talking to Paul Mattress Man made me hungry for more facts. Push his button and this guy disseminates mo...

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Toiling. (Provocative title, I know. LOL)

March 20, 2015

Toil, toil, toil. That word just keeps running through my head this week. It’s a rather unpleasant word, actually. You’ll probably never see it on someone's fridge or tattooed on someone’s arm, right?!

The dictionary on my computer elaborates quite effectively…


toil

verb

1 she toiled all night: work hard, labor, exert oneself, slave (away), grind away, strive, work one's fingers to the bone, put one's nose to the grindstone; informal slog away, plug away, beaver away, work one's butt...


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The Dream is Worth the Investment

February 4, 2015
My Seattle Seahawks were almost there...just 36 inches and mere seconds away from a consecutive victory at Sunday's XLIX Super Bowl. But almost wasn't good enough. To put it simply, one bad offensive decision from the Seahawks and the New England Patriots danced away with the Lombardi trophy and that's the end of that for this year in the NFL.
Coach Pete Carroll's face summed it up pretty well.

But like I said in my last post, as passionately as I felt about wanting this win for my team, it's o...
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My Super Bowl

February 1, 2015

I sat on my couch, watching the big game unfold on my 50 inch screen and with each play I not only sunk deeper into the cushions, but a sinking (or shall I say ‘stinking’?!) sense of doom began to fill the room…and my heart. 


This was the final playoff game of the National Football League season between the Green Bay Packers and my home team, the Seattle Seahawks. The hoopla was deafening, electric anticipation had built with each subsequent game, week-by-week throughout the football s...


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How to train your budding little athlete...

May 4, 2014
It's that time of year again when city parks will be teeming with hoards of little people in matching uniforms, along with tired dads and moms hauling bags of bats, bases, and water bottles early Saturday mornings. Clusters of shouting parents will be found vying for the trophies...these thoughts conjure memories of years gone by for so many of us. It seemed like a good time to share this (somewhat controversial) article I came across a few months back.

I live quite happily with lots of men, a...

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It pays to listen to your husband.

May 2, 2014
"Why?" you ask.

I've had many seasons when I sketched out my weekly or 2-weekly meal plan. It was effective. But for the past couple of years, I've been in the midst of a lot of activity and transition (not unusual for me LOL, but somehow it increased!) and this habit went to the wayside.

I began to shop somewhat haphazardly, grabbing stuff I liked, shopping the aisles by memory, buying what I 'knew' (or intended) I would use, and relying on my favorite habitual recipes and the cow I have in t...
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If MY man loves this lentil soup...it's good!

May 2, 2014
So in my last post, I gave you some tips to save on groceries - the single largest expenditure I make on a monthly basis! It can get a girl down when she happens to be a foodie and watches the numbers tally at the end of a long day of planning, driving, shopping, deciding, fighting for aisle space at Trader Joes, yada yada... 

Anyhoo-when I scavenged my cupboards and fridge and freezer to create my week's worth of meal plans BEFORE I hit TJs last week, it changed EVERYTHING. (which I shall enl...
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Grocery prices gotcha down? No worries....here's HELP!

May 1, 2014
Confirmed today. Food prices are SOARING. My best tips: 

1. Don't waste a morsel. Take inventory of your cupboards, fridge and freezer, and create something out of what's already sitting there. Get online and in your recipe box to jog your memory of recipes. I did that today, then cooked it up: a Mexican lentil soup and a chicken-mushroom-spinach-fresh basil dish with a sour cream sauce over gluten-free pasta. SO yum and almost free because I used what I had on hand that could have gone to was...
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