Why do we marry someone we adore, admire, pursue and commit our everything to, then relate to him at times as if he’s a stupid kid? Just ponder for a moment how much husband-disrespect and disregard goes on around you throughout a typical day with friends, workmates, gym gals, fellow shoppers and strangers on T.V. I observe it all the time and sometimes I’m the guilty critic, chiming in with her two and a half-wit cents!
Marriage is a team of two who most often have opposing strengths and weaknesses which is just so great until you have to live with the opposition, right?!
But back to my theme…our men know stuff we don’t.
Men aren’t women. (I know, that’s mind-blowing.)
They see through eyes we don’t have with gut instincts we don’t possess.
Their perspective is sometimes so far off from yours it’s actually….CORRECT! And maybe you’re not listening because his voice at times comes across as an annoying buzzing fat fly stuck in your ear. Well, let me tell you a few things….
If I had listened to my husband:
I would not have missed my connecting flight in Germany that one time, thus would have spent the entire, glorious, sunny day touring with him and our German-speaking friend seeing the sights and enjoying the culture. Instead, dilly dallying about like a distracted girl, I arrived at the gate as the door closed and there was no mercy to be found by Greta the staunch linebacker stewardess.
I would never have earned a speeding ticket on I-80 back in the 80s. The only speeding ticket I’ve ever had, by the way. (Knock on wood BAHAHA!) I 'knew better' than to allow him to show me how to read the new-fangled speedometer in our vehicle; I'm no dummy....uh huh.
I’ll spare you other examples for now, but I also have some great examples of the many, many, many times I have in actual fact listened and heeded his wisdom.
Just yesterday he saved me a heap o’ stress and strain when he said, “don’t do that tonight, save it for when you’re fresh in the morning.” I hesitated, then obeyed, silenced my phone as was suggested and went to bed. And guess what? By morning the situation had sorted itself out, saving me numerous texts and sparing the entire universe much confusion. LOL
Because I’ve listened for a very long time, I’ve never incurred frivolous debt. Real estate, the occasional vehicle, but that’s it.
I’ve stayed safe. Our husbands see and intuit many things that we just don’t see and intuit. My ultimate trust is in God and no man is a god, but yes, I have to admit even when I don’t want to, God gave me this man. (I sure hope you have a good sense of humor if you’re reading this.)
Protection isn’t just when he’s by my side, handgun at the ready. Safety comes when I heed his advice about where to be, where not to be, and how to operate out there in the big wide world, etc. (Girls, are you hearing this?????)
Because I heeded his voice when everything in me was screaming “NO!” I’ve traveled to numerous countries, experienced untold adventures, had the opportunity to serve all sorts of folks, and enlarged my children’s capacities because of it.
To be perfectly honest, I ask my husband for wisdom on at least a weekly basis, if not more. He literally wearies of me coming to him for his input at times, but I’ve found such value in hearing his opinion and gaining his insight; I know he is a safe source and will so often give me answers I don’t already have. And FAST. Just like that! (snapping fingers). Blows my mind, really.
So....there you go. As hard as it may be to admit it at times...it pays to listen to your man.
Posted by Denise Mira.